On a scale of 1 to traumatic, a broken heart is unmeasurable, and with Valentine's Day just a few weeks away, dealing with a broken heart can be especially difficult. Instead of letting loneliness take hold and keep you from doing what you want to do, try putting a positive spin on being single and work on moving forward.
While Miley Cyrus empowered herself with her new single “Flowers,” with more than a few references to her ex Liam Hemsworth, producing a new hit song is not perhaps the most practical option for most of us.
To help you deal with the recent pain of a relationship gone wrong, we put together five simple but effective steps for how to handle a broken heart and being single on what is perceived to be the most romantic day of the year.
Cut Them Off
In the beginning, cutting off all contact is strengthening and will give you time to break your attachment to your former partner. This will allow you to put things into perspective and focus on yourself. It will be difficult and painful, but trying to be “just friends” immediately or keeping in touch in any way will just make moving on harder.
Lean into Liberation
Being in an unfulfilling relationship on Valentine's Day will most likely result in disappointment. However, being single presents you with the opportunity to do whatever you want without having to think about organizing a romantic evening or worrying about any potential arguments or tension. You are not held back from your goals and there are no expectations or pressure. Cherish your single status on Valentine's Day as a sign that you deserve more and see it for what it truly is—freedom and new beginnings.
Grab Some “You” Time
Valentine's Day may be a day associated with couples, but there's nothing to stop you from having fun. Take time to do something different. Maybe spend the day at a spa with some girlfriends or go on a shopping spree and grab lunch. Or it could be as simple as ordering your favorite takeout and curling up on the sofa with a favorite movie.
What is important here is to learn to love yourself again and start to enjoy spending time with yourself. Solidifying your identity while single will help you avoid a codependent relationship in the future and allow you and your partner to complement each other rather than mesh into a single persona.
Try a Fresh Start
Use this day to start anew. Rearrange your home and buy some new bedding and cushions to erase any reminders of your ex. Why not go for a whole new look and try a new hairstyle and wardrobe? You will be amazed a how much better you feel. Just avoid cutting the bangs yourself.
Connect with Your Support System
It can be easy to become so focused on a romantic relationship that we neglect other forms of love in our lives, such as friendships and family. We can become too focused on our significant other and lose track of old friends or family members who will always love us no matter what. These relationships can be more valuable in the long run and are a reminder that love is all around us, even if a romantic relationship ends. Why not call up an old friend you lost touch with or go see your family?
Healing a broken heart can be a difficult and painful process, especially during holidays like Valentine's Day. However, it's important to remember that time is a great healer and that it's possible to find love again in the future. Focusing on self-care and engaging in activities that bring joy can help ease the pain and provide a sense of closure. Additionally, surrounding yourself with friends and family can provide a supportive environment and remind us that love exists in many forms. Remember, healing is a journey and it's okay to take as much time as you need.